Working women, working mothers, full-time mothers all know. This is what it's like to be a woman. Read more
Working women, working mothers, full-time mothers all know. This is what it's like to be a woman. Read more
It will not do to remove an incompetent or dangerous political figure by slapping a psychiatric label on him, if for no other reason than that people who genuinely suffer from mental health disorders deserve better. Read more
Adler's statement is conservative in the best sense: that which is genuinely good is worth preserving, even in difficult or turbulent times. It is also liberal in the best sense: that which is genuinely good is liberating, freeing. Having core values and practices actually frees you to act bravely when they are threatened. Read more
It's easy to develop habits of inattention, of laxity, of apathy, that snowball into outright negligence. Conscientiousness requires a daily commitment to excellence, a constant awareness that the work matters. Read more
My dear women-friends, I have some unasked-for advice to give you. And I’m not sorry for it. Because that’s my advice: whatsoever you do, don’t apologize for it. Do not apologize for not baking cupcakes. “I don’t bake” does not require an “I’m sorry, but” before it. Nor for baking cupcakes. “Here, I brought cupcakes!” needs no “I know this is not feminist, but” to make people okay with it, or with you. Don’t apologize for missing class or work.... Read more
When you're in a job where your physical safety is threatened or your competence and qualifications are constantly challenged, a financial savings account will help you say, "I can find another job," but an emotional savings account will help you say, "I will not take this from you." Read more
If it is only the power of the most powerful man in the room that keeps the violence of sexual predators at bay, what happens when the most powerful man in the room is himself the predator, himself the one who initiates the locker room talk? Read more
HR folks, section leaders, orientation directors, managers, bosses, employers of all sorts can communicate expectations, foster a culture of equality, and welcome new employees well when they handle unfamiliar names appropriately. Allowing some room for regional accents, we can, in general, learn to pronounce people's names correctly, no matter what naming cultures we or they come from. And we can, in our language about our own learning curve, acknowledge whose responsibility the learning is. Read more
Brock Turner’s father, whose legitimate parental desire to keep his son out of prison led him to say some stupid and wrong things, did not come up with those stupid and wrong things out of nowhere. Brock Turner’s expectation that he could avoid punishment for a felony did not come out of nowhere. Judge Aaron Persky did not, one day, wake up and decide, out of nowhere, that nice white athletes like himself probably shouldn’t really be penalized for felonies... Read more
What Brock Turner did was evil as well as criminal, but I can't say I'd be any more willing than his father to see one of my sons punished to the fullest extent of the law. I can't manage to work up any moral outrage at his admittedly ludicrous evaluation of his son's situation. He's doing his job as a parent. But that's why we don't ask the parents of the convicted wrongdoer to set the penalty. Read more
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